Is dating really that bad?

Hey there, beautiful people!!

The sun is bright; there's a light breeze... People are out walking, and cars are going back and forth. I just filled my pretty Stanley cup with water, pulled a chair outside, and decided to chat with y'all.

Braids in a bun, wearing a plain tee and sweatpants... I didn't lay my edges today. I didn't bother with makeup either, but my skin is glowing, waist slimming down, and I haven't been able to stop smiling. All week I've been so good, but today I woke up with an extra huge boost of peace and joy. Whatever is happening, give me more!

A Friday night with no plans with anyone, a few weeks ago, if this were the case, I would've been near tears. Just sad lol Not anymore...

Now two things can be true at the same time. I can do well in my single season and still miss certain things from dating and relationships. Date nights, phone calls, hand holding, shared reels, inside jokes, planning life together, being held, neck kisses, and the random gifts... I was especially hurt when there wasn't anyone to send me flowers when Max transitioned or when I passed the PMP exam... but I'll pick something up for myself tomorrow. 🥰

Alexa Play: Too Much by LaKeyah

...But is missing those things worth the headache of dating anymore???

I look at a little bit of everything to keep my algorithm moving so it doesn't get stuck on the same things anymore but it seems like for the past 3 weeks, reels, YouTube videos, and conversations with other women were all about how women are getting over it when it comes to dating...

It's either been Ladies just stay single messages, girlie platonic dates because men aren't doing it right or at all, how toxic men can be, how men want to be the woman in a relationship, or how most men are avoidants and/or emotionally immature. It truly is exhausting having to fight through the games, confusion and inconsistency from dating.

Is God telling me to wait a little bit more before I open myself back up to dating, or is HE saying to not bother at all? LOL

Alexa Play: UnLoyal by Summer Walker

So many women are opting not to date to put themselves, peace, life goals, health, and whatever else they want, first. I've seen that many are tired of the lack of equal effort from men, the emotional instability, them (men) seeking things they aren't providing... I've seen they want "peace" yet provide confusion, and that they want to see if a woman can be a wife, but they don't want to display husband practices. Some have more excuses than action. Dating apps are full of men preying on women for sex or to scam. I also read there's pressure for women to settle or lower standards... just for a relationship? 💩No. Why is it like this? Has social media really made dating this bad? What is it?

Yes, men deserve what they need in dating and a relationship as well, but are they creating the space for the woman to be for them what they say they want, or is the assumption for women to set the foundation, to pursue, to call first, and they (men) still be the leader? 🧐

One of my sister friends questioned why men will pursue a woman, be with her for a while, then wake up one day and decide they want out... We have great conversations about relationships, but I have no clue why it happens.

I get where some women are coming from though... because when I think about certain things from past dating/relationships... Eh, I don't know if I'm set up for that kind of disappointment again. I (on purpose) am intentionally not dating right now. I've experienced some wanting instant gratification from you and patience for their short comings yet need to slow walk you on your needs and even walk away if you sneeze wrong! 😅 Insane.

I miss having a man call to check on me and show he loves me... but I do believe men are out here playing games way too much for me to take a risk on them right now. 😎

My prayer is that the block between us is removed, so men can get back to actually liking women in a real way, and women no longer have to suffer heartbreak. There was a time when dating felt good.

My heart is full of good love to share with the man who deserves it and moves as if he wants it. If MY husband is out there, he will handle me with a certain kind of masculinity yet softness that I need to feel safe; he will be intentional because he sees value in me, he will be urgent when it comes to me because he won't want to see me with another, and humble enough to not allow his pride or ego to get in between us.

Am I asking for too much? Nope.

Not too much for the man for me.

I will keep going until my husband stops me...

I know I have to open myself up for him to get to me. And I will.... Soon.

At some point. 😅

But if that doesn't happen, my life and I will still be beautiful and whole.

Moving forward...

This is it for now... I've started working out with weights and actually love it, so I need to get my time in to tone up. I just wanted to share a thought this eve. Thank you for giving this a read... xoxo

Until Next Time #PenthePositive

NinaB

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