Chapter 1... Death of the Good Girl...
- Nina B Williams
- 3 days ago
- 5 min read
Updated: 2 days ago
Hello Beautiful People!!! It's been a great ME May and going to be an even better Joyful June.
How has May been treating you? Did April go well?
Alexia Play: Cleo Sol Reasons
From April into May, I've been reflecting on how I made it through the winter season. Grief from loss, moving beyond church hurt, confusion with what was happening around me, studying for the PMP, standing up against issues at work, and a lot of tears, but with God, I made it. Head high, heart full, mind sharp, faith steady, still here in life... I made it. Thank you, God.
I took to planning things for myself to keep moving forward in life. It wasn't easy to step into this new version of life, but I'm here.
I am very open and excited about looking for and moving towards career opportunities in Project and/or Project Management.
At a minimum of 3 times a week, I found myself excited about working out. I have one of those weighted vests for my evening walks, and just ordered weights for a brief workout in my mornings. I LOVE my curves, so I'm not really trying to lose weight. I want to tone and keep feeling good.
Chasing joy has always felt good to me, and now, with God, it's at the center of my day. 🤗 I have walking/hiking dates planned, mini getaways booked, road trips planned, festivals planned, brunch dates planned, vending booked....
I guess I'm coping, as my therapist would love to say. It really does help.
❓️With the foolishness happening with flight costs and the country as a whole, how will you travel and create good memories over this summer? 🧐
Oh! At the end of April, I also became overzealous in preparing for the Taste Better spring/summer tee release. Instead of just Black or White, I tie-dyed and pressed 52 t-shirts and 26 drawstring bags. It was a heavier task than I thought it would be.
I shouldn't be left unsupervised... 🥴 Either way, I haven't figured out how to list them on the website because each tee is different but contact me to get your t-shirt before they are gone if you want one! When they are gone, they will be gone until next Spring/Summer.
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R.I.P to the Good Girl
Over the past few months, I've seen some posts about the "good girl syndrome,"... Always understanding, accommodating, patient, supportive... Selfless... Head low and out of the way. Always do the right thing and downplay your needs. Ignoring your gut feelings or staying too long in spaces, hoping for reciprocity. Being uncomfortable in your own life for the comfort of others... Easy to manage and controllable. Performative. NO more.
There's a time and place for everything... I am in the right place and time in my life. Where I can certainly relate to their experiences, I am ready to say goodbye to that side of me. The reels of these women hit me to my core, but really through prayer, therapy and using the Selfish Edition, it has had me look at a lot of things very differently. I'm showing up for myself now. Going harder for me. Present in my own life again. My satisfaction in every way is a priority. Being in rooms that align with where I'm headed. Direct and soft. I will take up space again. Confident and unapologetically.
Aside from the work I'm doing and the plans I made for myself, I've asked myself a lot of questions...
What's next for me? What do I want life to feel like? What habits does the woman I want to be have? What do I want this summer to be? What will the 52 Week Experience look like for 2027? Will there still be 52 Week Experience in 2027? What workouts do I enjoy most to help me stay on my fitness journey? How do I make more friends who align with who I am? Am I willing to lose certain people when I stand up for myself? Will I want to bother with dating any time soon? And so on...
Learning about this while I've been on this journey has been humbling. Doing what's been best for my healing and growth has been rewarding. I feel lighter. Free.
I learned a lot, but I won't miss or mourn the weight of being the "good girl". If people missed it, oh... May that part of me rest well... I'm moving forward. I only intend on being a "good girl" for my man, in the bed room. 🤪😅
Remember a few blogs ago, I mentioned closing the book to start a new one? Yea... May was the start of a new beginning for me.
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Mother's Day...
I really don't have much about Mother's Day... I sent my love out to some of my loved ones. My friends are so kind and considerate, but I didn't feel like the encouraging text about my time coming, what they know I did for other people's children, or that I was a great human mom to Max.
All was appreciated, but I didn't want it. I don't know. Maybe I no longer needed it. Six children (3 of them in my home full-time for a while, 2 on my own) in my life. None of them even reach out to see how I am.... I'm without my mother and miss her a lot, and not (currently) a mom (God still has the final say), it's a part of my current story. I guess I have acceptance for what it is, and it's now, it's ok. I'm ok.
Monthly Mantra
Money flows to me easily. My pockets are never empty. My bank account is overflowing. Success flows to me. Fruitful offers and opportunities always come to me.
❓️What's your mantra for the month?
💃🏾🕺Things to Do: June
If an effort to find a good balance between being out living, staying in to recharge, without breaking the bank, I wanted to share a few Budget-Friendly things you can experience this April for $50 or under:
Join a walking or hiking group
Go to a food festival
Play hookie from work/school/life and take care of yourself
Even if you don't drink wine, visit a local vineyard and enjoy the views and weather
For Pride Month- check out the queer coloring bookings for men and women
Use Code: PRIDE for 50% off, expires June 30, 2026, 11:59 p.m.
Check out the 52 Weeks for Me Edition here on the website.
Use Code: 4ME for 50% off, expires June 30, 2026, 11:59 p.m.
Peek at Next Month: 🧐
June is Men's Health Awareness and Pride Month. There will be things to do in June, of course, my life recap for whatever adventures I go on with the weather warming up, and more.
We can have all the plans we want, and life will still do whatever it chooses. Find a way to enjoy the ride as best as you can. Fill your heart with great memories. Surround yourself with love.
I pray you found value in something shared. And that it inspires you to keep going through anything you may be moving through. 🤎
Feel free to drop love below, email, or chat here if subscribed to the website. I welcome positivity and definitely need the prayers and love, especially in this season.
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Until Next Time...
NinaB
xoxo
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